The Wedding Shower: Who's Job Is It Anyway?
Who's responsible for planning the wedding shower?
So there's going to be a wedding, and that means there's going to be a wedding shower, but whose job is it to plan the party?
When a wedding shower needs to be planned, it's traditionally been the duty of the maid of honor to plan it. However, times are changing and that's not always the case nowadays.
For the Maid of Honor
If you're the maid of honor and you want to plan the wedding shower, by all means do so. Traditionally the wedding shower is your responsibility so you don't really need to check with anyone before deciding to plan it. Just make sure that everyone knows that you're planning the party and that you're up for offers for help if anyone would like to participate.
If you don't want to plan the wedding shower but you know someone else does, talk it over with that person and let her know that it's fine for her to do so.
If no one else wants to plan the wedding shower, it's still going to fall into your lap or there won't be a party at all.
Put Feelers Out
If you're not the maid of honor but you'd like to plan the bridal shower, put feelers out and see if the maid of honor is planning on throwing one. If not, go ahead and offer to do it.
If someone else says that they were planning on planning the wedding shower, offer to help plan the shower but try not to take over.
The Bride Herself
Believe it or not, the bride may want to plan the wedding shower herself. It's not uncommon for the bride to take control of her own wedding shower. If that's the case, offer to help her but don't try to stop her.
The Bride's Mother
Before planning the wedding shower, always check in with the bride's mother. After all, this is an emotional time for mothers and you don't want to be stepping on any toes.
If it's been decided that you'll be planning the shower, just give the mother a courtesy call asking if she'd like to help in any way. She may or she may not, but at least you offered.
There's No I in Teamwork
Regardless of who's in charge of throwing the wedding shower, make sure it's a team effort. A great wedding shower is too much for one person to handle on their own so a group of people working together is usually the best option.