Your Responsibilities as a Bridal Shower Hostess
Have you shouldered the responsibilities of a friend's bridal shower hostess? Here are a few pointers to keep in mind.
So, let's say you've been drafted to be the bridal shower hostess for one of your friends. Um, yay? This duty usually falls to the maid/matron of honor, who's already oh-my-God busy with other wedding preparations. Sometimes, the lucky mother of the bride gets to do it.
Either way, it's another big job to handle when you've already got too much on your plate. But what are you gonna do, head for the hills? As attractive as that may seem, then you wouldn't get to wear that ugly puce taffeta thing to the wedding. Oh, hey... wait a minute...
Tongue Out of Cheek
In all seriousness, wedding shower hostess is an important job, and usually you can rope somebody in to help you with it. Your first duty, of course, is to compile a guest list. You can then go over it with someone "in the know" to cull some names or add others.
Once you've figured out how many to expect, you'll need to choose a venue. If you have a little apartment and expect 35 guests, that's not going to work. You're better off meeting at a local restaurant's party room, or some other fairly big spot where everyone can gather in comfort.
If the party's to be cozy, your place or someone's backyard might be just fine.
Moving Right Along
Next up, you've got to send out the invites. Choosing who to send them to is easy-peasy compared to picking the invitations themselves, given everything available these days. You can buy online, in-store, or make your own. Or you can simply go to the guest's Facebook or Twitter page and post the invitation there.
Next stop on the Wedding Shower Train: Decorations and Décor. Once again, you've got a HUGE range of options, as even the most casual examination of this site demonstrates. So give yourself plenty of time to make the choices, or you may end up pounding on the door of Party City at closing time the night before.
But Wait, There's More!
And how about the food and drinks and entertainment? Party favors? That Chippendale's dancer? Keep all that in mind and on your list, 'cause that's all up to you as well. A good caterer might be able to handle the drinks and food, but you'll have to arrange the rest.
Oh, and you've got to be a gracious hostess, look your best, and greet each and everybody as they arrive.
Last but hardly least, don't assume that just because you've killed yourself with all the preparations, you don't need to give the bride-to-be a shower gift. Nope, even the bridal shower hostess is expected to make a contribution to the gift shower itself.